I think that's a pretty direct way to put it but I really cannot agree more. I have to believe that OP already knows this and that's why they subconsciously mad

I think that's a pretty direct way to put it but I really cannot agree more. I have to believe that OP already knows this and that's why they subconsciously made this thread in the first place. Perhaps this can be the gentle nudge to get them to have the uncomfortable realization with themselves that more drastic and potentially messy (but necessary) action is required.