Lots of factors really, if topic is interesting, if talker is well paced and engaging as a story teller. if conversing with someone, literally just shut the fu

Lots of factors really, if topic is interesting, if talker is well paced and engaging as a story teller. if conversing with someone, literally just shut the fuck up[0] and give yourself some time to process the words, the context, the place where ythat person is coming from. cheesy way to put it is put yourself in their shoes, listen to understand and respond correctly, instead of just waiting for your turn to talk. [0] intentional fuck here for emphasis, it took me time to adjust to this, it is not something you just turn on like a flick of switch, it takes practice to really listen