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The argument against texting, for me at least, is that it’s more intrusive (constant interruptions for unimportant things) and interactions end up being less an

by lc9er 6y ago

The argument against texting, for me at least, is that it’s more intrusive (constant interruptions for unimportant things) and interactions end up being less and less meaningful.

Jtsummers 6y ago
Turn off notifications. Text is inherently asynchronous letting you answer when you can. Phone calls that aren’t for a conversation are much more intrusive.
- 8ytecoder 6y ago
  Exactly. Texting gives control to the receiver on how and when to respond. Calling takes away that control. I wish voice messages were more common though. In iMessage you could simply place your phone near your ear and start talking to send a voice message. I don’t see many people use that or even aware of that.
  - SyzygistSix 6y ago
    Yep. For these reasons I find texting more respectful of other people's time and more polite.
  - skinnymuch 6y ago
    It’s not feature full. It’s not easy to rewind or fast forward. You can’t change the speed of the memo. If your phone switches tilts - horizontal to vertical, usually the memo is lost. Those aren’t what is keeping iMessage memos from being used however they frustrate me as I have gotten used to Otter.ai and Telegram years earlier.
- zamfi 6y ago
  This is a generational thing. If you’re over 30-35, you treat texts as asynchronous. If you’re under 30, you assume someone who hasn’t responded within minutes is dead. At least, in my limited experience.
  - detaro 6y ago
    Not responding to text messages for hours or days is totally normal for many younger people.
- o-__-o 6y ago
  (You could turn off your ringer too)
lm28469 6y ago
I turned off all notifications 5 years ago. No noise, no vibration, no pop-up, no nothing. I doubt I'll ever switch any of these on again
- sloshnmosh 6y ago
  I highly recommend turning off all notifications/ringers as well. Now, if I turn on notifications I realize just how annoying and distracting they can be. I also block any phone calls that aren’t on my contact list. Others can leave a message. Best thing I’ve done for my mental health.
- tenebrisalietum 6y ago
  The only contacts that make sound on my phone for incoming calls or messages are my wife and my boss.
- anaerobicover 6y ago
  Out of curiosity, do you even eschew notifications to yourself? Calendar reminders, todos, that kind of thing? I allow some notifications, and I find these quite valuable personally.
Zak 6y ago
Messaging apps that were popular in the early 2000s had fairly sophisticated concepts about how available a user was at any given time. That seems to be absent or significantly degraded in most of what's popular now. I want to be able to indicate my availability or lack thereof to any of my regular contacts before they send a message, indicate how urgent a message is when sending it, and control what level of urgency triggers a notification (with an option to put urgency limits on specific contacts if they misuse it).
- petre 6y ago
  Probably because they're mobile and disconnected most if the time, so they don't have to advertise your availability status periodically. In the 2000s they mostly advertised that the user was away from the terminal. Nowadays one has the terminal in their pocket. Some of the old IM systems have a mobile status now. The busy status was ignored successfully then as it is now.
  - Zak 6y ago
    The busy status, at least in some clients affected what sort of notification the recipient got. My phone does have a global do-not-disturb function, but it doesn't notify the sender, and the only real bypass for it is a voice call. I want to be able to pre-notify all senders that I won't be replying quickly so there's no confusion. In an ideal world, I could set this in one place on my phone or desktop and the 8 different chat apps I use would all get respect it. Of course SMS can't support it, but nobody who has anything important to say to me would send me an SMS.

by lc9er 6y ago

The argument against texting, for me at least, is that it’s more intrusive (constant interruptions for unimportant things) and interactions end up being less and less meaningful.

Jtsummers 6y ago

Turn off notifications. Text is inherently asynchronous letting you answer when you can. Phone calls that aren’t for a conversation are much more intrusive.

8ytecoder 6y ago
Exactly. Texting gives control to the receiver on how and when to respond. Calling takes away that control. I wish voice messages were more common though. In iMessage you could simply place your phone near your ear and start talking to send a voice message. I don’t see many people use that or even aware of that.
- SyzygistSix 6y ago
  Yep. For these reasons I find texting more respectful of other people's time and more polite.
- skinnymuch 6y ago
  It’s not feature full. It’s not easy to rewind or fast forward. You can’t change the speed of the memo. If your phone switches tilts - horizontal to vertical, usually the memo is lost. Those aren’t what is keeping iMessage memos from being used however they frustrate me as I have gotten used to Otter.ai and Telegram years earlier.
zamfi 6y ago
This is a generational thing. If you’re over 30-35, you treat texts as asynchronous. If you’re under 30, you assume someone who hasn’t responded within minutes is dead. At least, in my limited experience.
- detaro 6y ago
  Not responding to text messages for hours or days is totally normal for many younger people.
o-__-o 6y ago
(You could turn off your ringer too)

lm28469 6y ago

I turned off all notifications 5 years ago. No noise, no vibration, no pop-up, no nothing. I doubt I'll ever switch any of these on again

sloshnmosh 6y ago
I highly recommend turning off all notifications/ringers as well. Now, if I turn on notifications I realize just how annoying and distracting they can be. I also block any phone calls that aren’t on my contact list. Others can leave a message. Best thing I’ve done for my mental health.
tenebrisalietum 6y ago
The only contacts that make sound on my phone for incoming calls or messages are my wife and my boss.
anaerobicover 6y ago
Out of curiosity, do you even eschew notifications to yourself? Calendar reminders, todos, that kind of thing? I allow some notifications, and I find these quite valuable personally.

Zak 6y ago

Messaging apps that were popular in the early 2000s had fairly sophisticated concepts about how available a user was at any given time. That seems to be absent or significantly degraded in most of what's popular now. I want to be able to indicate my availability or lack thereof to any of my regular contacts before they send a message, indicate how urgent a message is when sending it, and control what level of urgency triggers a notification (with an option to put urgency limits on specific contacts if they misuse it).

petre 6y ago
Probably because they're mobile and disconnected most if the time, so they don't have to advertise your availability status periodically. In the 2000s they mostly advertised that the user was away from the terminal. Nowadays one has the terminal in their pocket. Some of the old IM systems have a mobile status now. The busy status was ignored successfully then as it is now.
- Zak 6y ago
  The busy status, at least in some clients affected what sort of notification the recipient got. My phone does have a global do-not-disturb function, but it doesn't notify the sender, and the only real bypass for it is a voice call. I want to be able to pre-notify all senders that I won't be replying quickly so there's no confusion. In an ideal world, I could set this in one place on my phone or desktop and the 8 different chat apps I use would all get respect it. Of course SMS can't support it, but nobody who has anything important to say to me would send me an SMS.