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I use it to place the blame of someone refusing or failing to understand on myself. The goal is not to signal a lack of investment, but to give someone a way to
by Kalium 6y ago
I use it to place the blame of someone refusing or failing to understand on myself. The goal is not to signal a lack of investment, but to give someone a way to admit to being wrong without actually having to admit to anything. It sometimes helps remove a person's ego as an obstacle.
It's the difference between "I failed to be understandable" and "You failed to understand". With the former, they can come back and say that since I've clarified so helpfully, they agree with me without impugning their previous position. The latter allows no such latitude.
- mcguire 6y agoAs an aside, I understand your argument. I simply disagree.
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- viklove 6y ago> but to give someone a way to admit to being wrong without actually having to admit to anything It also shows that you have no humility and can't accept that you might be wrong. That's what I'm trying to say. > It's the difference between "I failed to be understandable" and "You failed to understand". You can't even imagine a situation where the other party in the discussion understands your perspective but simply disagrees? > It sometimes helps remove a person's ego as an obstacle. Start with yourself.
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