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> I hope this is better! Thank you for the chance to improve my communications skills. Have a nice day. Unrelated, but I've always found it interesting how peo
by viklove 6y ago
> I hope this is better! Thank you for the chance to improve my communications skills. Have a nice day.
Unrelated, but I've always found it interesting how people try to avoid appearing like they're actually invested in the conversation they're having and the effect the results have on them.
"I'm not here to exchange ideas and make my understanding of the world better, no, I'm just here to improve my communication skills and I want you to know that!"
I understand the need for self-preservation, but going to this length of lying to yourself and observers to defend your ego is amusing in my opinion.
- Kalium 6y agoI use it to place the blame of someone refusing or failing to understand on myself. The goal is not to signal a lack of investment, but to give someone a way to admit to being wrong without actually having to admit to anything. It sometimes helps remove a person's ego as an obstacle. It's the difference between "I failed to be understandable" and "You failed to understand". With the former, they can come back and say that since I've clarified so helpfully, they agree with me without impugning their previous position. The latter allows no such latitude.
- mcguire 6y agoAs an aside, I understand your argument. I simply disagree.
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- viklove 6y ago> but to give someone a way to admit to being wrong without actually having to admit to anything It also shows that you have no humility and can't accept that you might be wrong. That's what I'm trying to say. > It's the difference between "I failed to be understandable" and "You failed to understand". You can't even imagine a situation where the other party in the discussion understands your perspective but simply disagrees? > It sometimes helps remove a person's ego as an obstacle. Start with yourself.
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