Can't a non-profit say something like: "Of course we can restrict your donation to X. But we're also happy to listen to what's most important to you and work y

Can't a non-profit say something like: "Of course we can restrict your donation to X. But we're also happy to listen to what's most important to you and work yith you to develop a plan based on our expertise, and how ot fits into a larger story." The hidden mesaage in there is not just "we know best" but also, "we can help you with the PR story or legacy or whatever you want".