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Is flirting even allowed nowadays?
by temp8964 6y ago
Is flirting even allowed nowadays?
- ceejayoz 6y agoSure. Avoid doing it at work.
- recursive 6y agoWhat's left? Grocery store and vaccination clinic?
- cardiffspaceman 6y agoMobile order pick-up if you dare. ETA: dare to go inside a place you can mobile order from.
- bradlys 6y agoSocial gatherings where people are there to meet others. You can flirt at other times but you need other people to be clearly interested in that behavior (I mean, that’s true at all times but let’s be real about context). For most people commenting here on HN, I don’t think they know when that time is or maybe the nuances of flirting that are safe.
- temp8964 6y agoIs professional conference included in "social gatherings"?
- pmiller2 6y agoI'd say generally not, unless there's some sort of social event in the evening.
- ceejayoz 6y agoIf it's a place where you'd be wearing a conference/work badge, it's probably not the place to flirt. If you bump into someone at the hotel bar later, that's probably fine. Take "no" for an answer, don't be grabby, etc. all still apply.
- falcolas 6y ago> For most people commenting here on HN, I don’t think they know when that time is or maybe the nuances of flirting that are safe. And, like all activities, you learn the nuances and signals by trying, and failing. Except, failing can have disastrous consequences in this age that does not forget (Google, Facebook, et.al.), and does not forgive (zero tolerance policies, harsh CoC penalties, etc).
- ceejayoz 6y ago> Except, failing can have disastrous consequences in this age that does not forget (Google, Facebook, et.al.), and does not forgive (zero tolerance policies, harsh CoC penalties, etc). Avoid flirting places where there's a zero tolerance policy or CoC that forbids it, then. Avoid hitting on people at work (yours, theirs, ours; the cashier at the grocery store almost certainly doesn't want to be propositioned in a customer service context) and conferences. Bars don't have these. If you flirt and get turned down, it's not going on your permanent record unless you refuse to take "no" for an answer or you're assaulting/harassing.
- falcolas 6y ago> Bars don't have these. People can and do take pictures of the 'offenders' at bars, gyms, even at the park, and post about how creepy they were on social media. Even if they aren't flirting, but just look silly or menacing or ugly or whatever. This might not be a legal permanent record, but it will be there for discovery permanently. Social Media's propensity to do facial recognition on posted pictures will only help with this 'discoverability' of undesirables.
- kodyo 6y agoOnline dating. Not Tinder. For shy dudes, a person's presence on a dating site is about the most obvious sign that they're open to being approached that you can get. Contact 50, chat with 10, meet 3, have a relationship with 1. Numbers may vary based on height and money.
- viklove 6y ago> Contact 50, chat with 10 Haven't been on online dating in a while, but a 20% response rate seems astronomical compared to what most guys get. Even when I did get a response, I was stood up more often than not. Online dating is a meatgrinder for men. If you're not tall and white it's really not worth having an account at all due to the toll it takes on your mental health.
- kodyo 6y agoThis is all true (not sure about the "white" part but the "tall" part definitely appears to hold true). But as an introvert, it's been an effective way to just get past the cold introduction hurdle. Met a couple wives this way. Snort.
- pmiller2 6y agoWell, I am tall, white, at least average looking, and fairly charming via text, and I still don't have an amazing response rate.
- JustResign 6y agoFlirting from attractive people is always welcome. Rule 1: be attractive.