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"Flirt the wrong way" to one person could mean "gross violation of my person" to someone else. This is of course a generalization, and details matter, but if w
by sbarre 6y ago
"Flirt the wrong way" to one person could mean "gross violation of my person" to someone else.
This is of course a generalization, and details matter, but if we're going to err on one side or the other, erring on the side of the person being involuntarily affected vs. the person taking voluntary action is probably the better call, at least until all the details emerge.
And yes, pitchforks tend to come out long before all the details emerge, but that's a bigger problem (that we do need to solve)..
- bluecatswim 6y agoWhat does the respectful way of flirting look like? I want to educate myself.
- coffeemaniac 6y agoThere's no one correct way to respectfully flirt, but if you consistently make an effort to be (1) genuine, (2) interested, and (3) confident, you'll often find it's not hard to be respectful. Overall, just get out and meet people with the goal of meeting people and making friends and it'll come naturally. Just like anything else, get out and try, and keep track of what works and what doesn't.
- meowster 6y agoGiving a compliment and asking if you want to have coffee/lunch? (Disclaimer, I have no idea.)
- sbarre 6y agoI won't pretend to know the answer to that, I've been out of the game for a long time.. ;-) Although like anything else in life, "be nice, be respectful" are some pretty good rules to overlay on whatever approach you take.
- rawgabbit 6y agoIt depends on the culture. For most Western cultures, it is a private affair between the two potential partners. It is not unlike corporate sales. You signal that you are in the market. You tell a little about yourself. Ideally you spend most of the time asking about the other person. Polite interest. Bonus advice. Ask about their mother.