You mention "destigmatizing time off for parents of both genders", but the rest of your post is structured to imply that time off for new parents is a primarily

You mention "destigmatizing time off for parents of both genders", but the rest of your post is structured to imply that time off for new parents is a primarily or exclusively female concern. What are these "different needs and desires"? Men like to spend time with their children too. It seems to me that, rather than any particular unfairness towards women, the issue is that children simply demand a lot of parental resources that are difficult to spare in a competitive marketplace.