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I don't need to reverse it to imagine it - I'm a woman who has worked on teams that were otherwise all men, and I've never once felt excluded by a "hey guys", o
by sudosteph 6y ago
I don't need to reverse it to imagine it - I'm a woman who has worked on teams that were otherwise all men, and I've never once felt excluded by a "hey guys", or even "hey dudes".
You know what does feel super awkward though? When someone says "hey guys" in the chat, and then immediately trips over themselves to "correct" themselves, because they're afraid they've hurt my feelings or that they will be called out for uttering "wrongspeak". It's absurd to assign ill-intent to someone for simply using a slightly different dialect of American English than yourself. I'm from the south, so I say "y'all", and nobody gives me a hard time over it.
Also - who cares if your coworkers have different tastes in things than you do? You're not at work to talk about TV shows or trade gifs. The whole "you should bond with your coworkers like they're your friends" thing is a toxic myth that companies promote for purely selfish reasons.
- Spivak 6y agoI’m in the same boat being form the Midwest so I just think it’s funny at this point — “good morning guys… uhh and lady.” But I empathize with my out of town coworkers for whom it’s really jarring so I picked up folks or peeps. I’ve never thought anyone using guys was being malicious just that some people feel more included with a different word. Like it was basically no effort for me to switch and made someone else feel just a little bit better I hope. And It doesn’t really bother me that I don’t have many boyish interests and so my entirely male rest of my team don’t talk to me very much about TV and movies or their hobbies but I still make an effort to be their friends because like we’re a small team and spend all day together. Being friends with my coworkers is honestly good for my mental health, the company be damned.