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This is super unpopular, but I think young marriages actually give women more autonomy. When you’re 18, marry a 30 year old guy — then take 6 years for undergr
by bopbeepboop 6y ago
This is super unpopular, but I think young marriages actually give women more autonomy.
When you’re 18, marry a 30 year old guy — then take 6 years for undergrad, have three kids along the way, and let him pay for it. Then do graduate school while they grow up.
You’ll get out of school, debt free at 30, and already have three kids at school age — ready to be bussed off while you tackle that career. You won’t have to take a career break for children, because they’ll be in school when you start.
- necovek 6y agoRaising 3 kids while at the same time completing undergrad studies in 6 years: I think you are missing some real-life experience to support that conjecture (I see you are adding 2 years on top of the standard 4 year undergrad program, so you are obviously trying). I imagine you are not a mainly stay-at-home parent who did that, let alone one who went to University at the same time. But even if you are, some kids are just that much harder to deal with than others (you know, just like some people are). Now, my wife and I, who started having kids only in their 30s, admit that some of the things would have been much easier if we've only started earlier. But the likelihood of kicking off on a long, shared life path with someone you haven't met intimately, or without knowing yourself intimately (which I think is true for most people at 21, let alone 18), is minimal.
- bopbeepboop 6y agoI’m not sure I agree, particularly with the last sentence — but I wanted to let you know I appreciate the thoughtful reply. Have a good one!