I've been in very similar situations, except I did not turn my life over to the ones I was helping. If you have shown someone how to organize their money (a dub

I've been in very similar situations, except I did not turn my life over to the ones I was helping. If you have shown someone how to organize their money (a dubious enterprise with people in their 70's who have never done so), and have helped them access social services, then please feel free to leave and not feel guilt. The family members I helped in this way could go along for months with no apparent crises; as soon as I arrived to help them with some specific effort, I was presented with an avalanche of emergencies: illnesses, broken appliances, unpaid bills, conflict with neighbors, etc. After spending a week getting those issues resolved, I was hit up for a return visit to handle the original purpose of my visit. Each visit was a new list of crises. When the crisis culminated in the death of our uncle, we "airlifted" our handicapped nephew out of there and into our home and left the rest of the family to fend as best they could. Guess what? Without us there to help, they managed to get on disability and other forms of welfare and are doing OK. If you have the time, means and inclination to deal with people like that, do it; if not, no one outside of the family will blame you for taking care of yourself.