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Holding ourselves to impossibly high standards leads to dissatisfaction. Accepting that we will sometimes be mediocre at what we do and knowing that we will do
by david-gpu 6y ago
Holding ourselves to impossibly high standards leads to dissatisfaction.
Accepting that we will sometimes be mediocre at what we do and knowing that we will do better over time is a healthier alternative.
- verisimilidude 6y agoThis is especially true when it comes to raising kids. Children have their own personalities. Some will be introverts and others will be party animals. Some will be quiet and others will make trouble. If a person goes into the job of parenthood with perfect preparation and explicit expectations, then failure is guaranteed. The best approach requires some level of improvisation; we learn each child’s tendencies, accept them for who they are, and try to mold them into the best versions of themselves. I don’t see a way to prepare for this.
- ZephyrBlu 6y agoI have no expectations of parenthood, but I want to be able to give my children (Assuming I have any) a large portion of my attention to try and nurture them as best as I can. That is what I mean by "doing it well" in terms of parenthood. This is partly driven by me viewing the education system as failing children, and also me wanting to try and impart more knowledge upon my children.
- ZephyrBlu 6y ago"Impossibly high standards" are different for every person. I fully expect to be mediocre at something when I start doing it, but I also expect to progress past being mediocre otherwise I see little point in doing that thing.