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I've been here before and it's a tough place to be! I've found a useful first step is to try and regain a sense of control over your life. When your focus is

I've been here before and it's a tough place to be! I've found a useful first step is to try and regain a sense of control over your life. When your focus is trying to influence others (i.e. your parents, potential employers), it's easy to feel like you have no control over anything. That is a recipe for learned helplessness and depression: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness Is there one thing that you can control? It could be blogging every day, it could be going on a run every day (which does wonders for fighting depression!), it could be anything. Whatever it is, it has to be something that you can control and can successfully accomplish without having to get the buy-in of others. Good luck!!

maxdemarzi 15y ago
I second this. The way out of a depression is by regaining your confidence. You can do this with "small wins" that lead to bigger wins and eventually the self confidence to take on the world. Working out/Getting in shape has the added benefit of reducing stress and produces endorphins helping you feel happier. But it could be anything. Reading a book, taking a class, solving a puzzle, etc.
mattman 15y ago
Thanks for the learned helplessness link. I'll look into that more. As for exercise, I take walks, bike, etc. The thing I'm missing the most are having other like minded people around to share ideas and progress. But maybe I need to look into building a small Skype-based network for this, or something similar.