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It is absolutely not true that men who succeed are "tremendous specimens". Sure - some are. But the vast majority are not. It is an erroneous and harmful con
by testfoobar 6y ago
It is absolutely not true that men who succeed are "tremendous specimens". Sure - some are. But the vast majority are not. It is an erroneous and harmful conclusion to decide that "tremendous specimens" are hoarding all the sex. This false conclusion prevents young men from seeing the actual reality that attraction is multi-faceted and multi-dimensional.
I know any number of guys who are not tremendous specimens who have no trouble at all getting dates or meeting new women for hookups. Each brings something to the table - something that attracts partners. Each guy has learned about themselves and works to develop themselves.
- AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago> This false conclusion prevents young men from seeing the actual reality that attraction is multi-faceted and multi-dimensional. The thing is that nowadays the expectation is that you date using an app, and the apps are absolutely 100% one dimensional single-faceted gamified systems. Ideally the solution is to stop using apps, but the problem people run into there is that they don't really know how to interact any other way because they never learned.
- testfoobar 6y agoApps are terrible for most men. Do things. Organize activities. Invite friends. Encourage them to invite friends. Learn to be social. Learn to make friends. Be fit. Be active. Be interested in other people and become interesting yourself. It all seems kinda cliche. But it works.