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Dating apps suggest that a small group are having more sex and a larger group less sex. It’s the distribution of sex, not the amount. Technology has enabled t

Dating apps suggest that a small group are having more sex and a larger group less sex. It’s the distribution of sex, not the amount. Technology has enabled the upper echelons of desirable men to sleep with many desirable women, and those down the pecking order are content with porn/toys, instead of settling for anyone other than the prized upper echelon. It’s not just the technology but the social change that resulted from technology

stonecraftwolf 6y ago
It’s extremely telling that you don’t bother to consider this from a woman’s POV, as though sex is some sort of fungible good to be distributed amongst men rather than something that results from two or more people expressing their agency. This is a deeply toxic set of assumptions that has its roots in the deeply misogynistic Incel culture.
- nickthemagicman 6y ago
  Everything viewed through statistics takes the emotion and human element out of it. This is statistically accurate analysis from dating sites and also the above article. It's not really something that's an opinion. Much like how Americans are Obese due to readily available junk food, women have become less interested in the less attractive men. Humans are more primitive than you would like to think.
  - goatinaboat 6y ago
    Americans are Obese due to readily available junk food, women have become less interested in the less attractive men Leading to headlines like http://whisper.sh/stories/09e9086b-03de-4087-ad5b-7f003ce2c312/Plus-Sized-Women-Admit-They-Arent-Attracted-To-Overweight-Men http://whisper.sh/stories/09e9086b-03de-4087-ad5b-7f003ce2c3... "Plus-Sized Women Admit They Aren't Attracted To Overweight Men"
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- scarmig 6y ago
  If the poster had said "Technology has enabled women to choose to sleep with a more rarefied subset of men than in the past," many people would complain that it's incel rhetoric attributing the statistical distribution to conscious agency on the part of women. Speaking in terms of distributions is the best way to handle this discussion, because people are more able to focus on the facts.
- chefkoch 6y ago
  Why is that? It's the women who decide who of the men has sex. If a women is not considered unattraktive it's way easier for her to find someone (but most won't find that someone good enough) for casual sex.
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- newsclues 6y ago
  I write as a 30 something year old man that has never had sex. Having re-read my comment I tried to make it gender neutral because I think the phenomenon effects all genders, it was only the third paragraph that I used gendered language. I’m concerned that you jumped on that, but not surprised.

stonecraftwolf 6y ago

It’s extremely telling that you don’t bother to consider this from a woman’s POV, as though sex is some sort of fungible good to be distributed amongst men rather than something that results from two or more people expressing their agency. This is a deeply toxic set of assumptions that has its roots in the deeply misogynistic Incel culture.

nickthemagicman 6y ago
Everything viewed through statistics takes the emotion and human element out of it. This is statistically accurate analysis from dating sites and also the above article. It's not really something that's an opinion. Much like how Americans are Obese due to readily available junk food, women have become less interested in the less attractive men. Humans are more primitive than you would like to think.
- goatinaboat 6y ago
  Americans are Obese due to readily available junk food, women have become less interested in the less attractive men Leading to headlines like http://whisper.sh/stories/09e9086b-03de-4087-ad5b-7f003ce2c312/Plus-Sized-Women-Admit-They-Arent-Attracted-To-Overweight-Men http://whisper.sh/stories/09e9086b-03de-4087-ad5b-7f003ce2c3... "Plus-Sized Women Admit They Aren't Attracted To Overweight Men"
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scarmig 6y ago
If the poster had said "Technology has enabled women to choose to sleep with a more rarefied subset of men than in the past," many people would complain that it's incel rhetoric attributing the statistical distribution to conscious agency on the part of women. Speaking in terms of distributions is the best way to handle this discussion, because people are more able to focus on the facts.
chefkoch 6y ago
Why is that? It's the women who decide who of the men has sex. If a women is not considered unattraktive it's way easier for her to find someone (but most won't find that someone good enough) for casual sex.
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newsclues 6y ago
I write as a 30 something year old man that has never had sex. Having re-read my comment I tried to make it gender neutral because I think the phenomenon effects all genders, it was only the third paragraph that I used gendered language. I’m concerned that you jumped on that, but not surprised.