> I'm genuinely curious if this is a good strategy, relationship-wise. Probably depends on the relationship. I've found that during a conflict, I'm never 100%

> I'm genuinely curious if this is a good strategy, relationship-wise. Probably depends on the relationship. I've found that during a conflict, I'm never 100% articulate or appropriate, so I will apologize for the mistakes I made during the discussion. If after the discussion, both of us agree that I was originally in the wrong, then of course, I'll apologize. But why apologize if you've done nothing wrong? That sets a really bizarre precedent: I'd rather placate someone who disagrees with me than to be able to express myself to a life partner. Why? If this is the person you're in a loving relationship with, why do they need so much protection from your viewpoints? That said, I'm not immune to the equation: (die_on_this_hill_factor / (perceived_anger_of_partner * estimated_kwh_of_ongoing_conflict)) * (personal_energy * previous_perceived_slights_against_me * stress * recent_affirmations_about_topic) If that value is below some threshold, drop it and move on, and depending on the outcome, sure, apologize. But apologizing every single time sounds like someone who wants to live their life wrapped around someone else's pinky.