I think I can kind of relate to the existential crisis, but I have decided that the other side of that coin is that you can intentionally build your own reality

I think I can kind of relate to the existential crisis, but I have decided that the other side of that coin is that you can intentionally build your own reality. Of course there is still plenty of things about life that you can't control, but you aren't necessarily stuck with some set of fixed personality traits and you can't decide to make something different out of yourself.