I mean, if you're close to the bereaved, this advice isn't for you. In that case you presumably already know what you can be doing and are doing it. This is for

I mean, if you're close to the bereaved, this advice isn't for you. In that case you presumably already know what you can be doing and are doing it. This is for people who don't know what they should be doing, because they're not in a close enough relationship to have that kind of meaningful role. Somebody like that can still help, for sure. If nothing else, there's always at least some unskilled setup and teardown work to do for a funeral and a wake. If someone is the kind of person who looks for ways to be of genuine help, they'll find them no matter what anyone else says. They don't need this advice. If someone isn't, at least this advice, if taken, might stop them doing harm.