My experience with dating sites is from a few years ago and not very extensive, but I disagree that men have no way of standing out. I'd say that a well-formed

My experience with dating sites is from a few years ago and not very extensive, but I disagree that men have no way of standing out. I'd say that a well-formed, a few paragraphs long, somewhat targeted (i.e., making references to the things in the woman's profile) and not openly desperate message gives you a very good chance of getting a reply. It's true women get a lot of attention but it's mostly trash. I think it's best to focus on profiles without photos.