You sound really upset. I don’t blame you. I started going bald in my 20s. It was heartbreaking to cut off my long hair. I truly loved it and felt strongly that

You sound really upset. I don’t blame you. I started going bald in my 20s. It was heartbreaking to cut off my long hair. I truly loved it and felt strongly that it was part of my identity. The alternative, I thought, was ridiculous — a bald man with a pony tail. Now I’m nearly 50, and if I could grow my hair back, I wouldn’t. I’ve been shaving with a trimmer once a week for 15 years now, and I adore it. It’s quick and easy. My hair is predictable and zero-maintenance. I think I still look pretty cool. Professionally I’ve never felt the lack. When I leave one company I quickly have offers piling up for new gigs. I have a family now, but (back when it was ok to be out in public) women still hit on me. Consider that no matter what your qualities, some people and contexts will ostracize you for them. You must instead find places and people that are acceptable to you, and accepting of you. There’s no magic here, just work and perseverance. There are plenty of worse situations: being Black is still no picnic in the US, and plenty of other places. Being a woman is still very challenging in many places. Being poor (like, too poor to own a computer) is still the worst. If you’ll forgive me for being blunt: if going bald is really the worst thing that’s happened to you, consider yourself to be very, very fortunate. There’s no reason to be suicidal about it. Find a therapist. Only you can improve your life, hair or no hair.