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That seems normal to me? I'm well-past the teenage years, and I wouldn't commit to a weekend activity without double-checking with the rest of my family first.

meowster 6y ago
I think it's "normal" only in the sense that most everyone behaves this way today, but I don't think it should be that way. By the time I was older in Scouts, my siblings were in college and my parent could drive me to wherever, or at least to the meeting place where I could carpool. The times when my parent wasn't available, I took the city bus. I imagine if one of my siblings was was the same age and our parent could only drive one of us, the other would take the bus. The first time I took the bus, my parent went with me to show me how, and then let me do it myself going forward.
- watwut 6y ago
  I dont think the person you responded to was thinking about driving vs busses. Basically, you are 16 and want to spend whole weekend out of house including during the night. Not doing it without parental permission seems normal to me. Nor it seems new. My gradma or grandpa definitely could not just spend whole night and weekend away just by own decision. They would expect my parents to ask them for permission. I was expected the same.
  - meowster 6y ago
    Mine was default allow, his was default block. I had to inform, he had to get permission. Perhaps same result, but one feels more autonomous than the other. From another one of my comments: > I always just told my parent that I was doing something just so they knew where I was - not necessarily asking for permission, but that gave them the chance to veto it (which they only did one time as punishment when I got in trouble at school). > I think that parents need to teach their kids how to be responsible and autonomous, and treat them like they are their own person
    - watwut 6y ago
      I dont think it necessary implies default block. It just implies you have to ask before comitting to activity. Whether the parents are more likely to say yes or no is orthogonal. Also, we are talking here about overnight camping. It is not the same out for few hours. 16 years old being expected to sleep at home by default does not strike me as overly controlling.

meowster 6y ago

I think it's "normal" only in the sense that most everyone behaves this way today, but I don't think it should be that way. By the time I was older in Scouts, my siblings were in college and my parent could drive me to wherever, or at least to the meeting place where I could carpool. The times when my parent wasn't available, I took the city bus. I imagine if one of my siblings was was the same age and our parent could only drive one of us, the other would take the bus. The first time I took the bus, my parent went with me to show me how, and then let me do it myself going forward.

watwut 6y ago
I dont think the person you responded to was thinking about driving vs busses. Basically, you are 16 and want to spend whole weekend out of house including during the night. Not doing it without parental permission seems normal to me. Nor it seems new. My gradma or grandpa definitely could not just spend whole night and weekend away just by own decision. They would expect my parents to ask them for permission. I was expected the same.
- meowster 6y ago
  Mine was default allow, his was default block. I had to inform, he had to get permission. Perhaps same result, but one feels more autonomous than the other. From another one of my comments: > I always just told my parent that I was doing something just so they knew where I was - not necessarily asking for permission, but that gave them the chance to veto it (which they only did one time as punishment when I got in trouble at school). > I think that parents need to teach their kids how to be responsible and autonomous, and treat them like they are their own person
  - watwut 6y ago
    I dont think it necessary implies default block. It just implies you have to ask before comitting to activity. Whether the parents are more likely to say yes or no is orthogonal. Also, we are talking here about overnight camping. It is not the same out for few hours. 16 years old being expected to sleep at home by default does not strike me as overly controlling.