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I think this is very wrong, and almost irresponsible. Without your hair, you will earn less money. Fewer people will do business with you (fewer investors, few

I think this is very wrong, and almost irresponsible. Without your hair, you will earn less money. Fewer people will do business with you (fewer investors, fewer contracts, fewer business partners). You will be paid less as an employee for the same work. You will be passed over for leadership positions. Fewer people will be friends with you. People will want to spend less time with you. You will not be invited to the same or as many parties as other people. Strangers on the street will look at you with pity and disgust. Children will shame you. No matter how inherently talented, intelligent, and hard-working you are, this will seep into every aspect of your life and rob you of success. It is a crippling disfigurement. And so, there are entire sections of the female population that won't touch you with a ten foot pole. Considering how painfully this impacts a persons life, they are right to do so. It is a travesty of evolution that male-pattern baldness exists. There currently isn't a way to re-grow lost hair. You have to do everything you can to keep what you have. The medication you mention, finasteride, might have sexual side effects, but for most people it doesn't. It's almost irrelevant if it does, because you won't have much of a sex life if you lose your hair. I wish I could have afforded it when I was young. If you can, go see a doctor at the first sign of hair loss. It's all you can do. If I hadn't lost my hair in my early twenties, I know that I would have been able to find romantic love, and have a better career. It is the single worst thing that has ever happened to me, and not a day goes by that I don't consider killing myself. It has made me less than human.

Majestic121 6y ago
While baldness definitely has a negative impact on most men life, it's merely a factor among many other things that can actually be controlled, and it's not life shattering on its own. If that's actually how you feel, it's pretty serious and I urge you to try and search for help in your environment : life does not have to be this bad, and it can get better.
voisin 6y ago
This is the most absurdly ludicrous thing I have ever read, and I am not exaggerating for effect. I honestly cannot tell if this is a bad joke or sarcasm, because I can hardly imagine a human being who could believe such nonsense. If you experience any of this nonsense first hand it is because you believe it to be true and have created a self fulfilling prophecy. You need to change your perspective. Go see a therapist and work out your issues. I suggest reading some Gabor Mate and work on resolving unresolved childhood trauma (the only thing I imagine to be strong enough to create such self-limiting beliefs - assuming of course your post is not just a failed attempt as sarcasm).
sonofhans 6y ago
You sound really upset. I don’t blame you. I started going bald in my 20s. It was heartbreaking to cut off my long hair. I truly loved it and felt strongly that it was part of my identity. The alternative, I thought, was ridiculous — a bald man with a pony tail. Now I’m nearly 50, and if I could grow my hair back, I wouldn’t. I’ve been shaving with a trimmer once a week for 15 years now, and I adore it. It’s quick and easy. My hair is predictable and zero-maintenance. I think I still look pretty cool. Professionally I’ve never felt the lack. When I leave one company I quickly have offers piling up for new gigs. I have a family now, but (back when it was ok to be out in public) women still hit on me. Consider that no matter what your qualities, some people and contexts will ostracize you for them. You must instead find places and people that are acceptable to you, and accepting of you. There’s no magic here, just work and perseverance. There are plenty of worse situations: being Black is still no picnic in the US, and plenty of other places. Being a woman is still very challenging in many places. Being poor (like, too poor to own a computer) is still the worst. If you’ll forgive me for being blunt: if going bald is really the worst thing that’s happened to you, consider yourself to be very, very fortunate. There’s no reason to be suicidal about it. Find a therapist. Only you can improve your life, hair or no hair.
mpfundstein 6y ago
you sir, should get checked out. thoroughly

Majestic121 6y ago

While baldness definitely has a negative impact on most men life, it's merely a factor among many other things that can actually be controlled, and it's not life shattering on its own. If that's actually how you feel, it's pretty serious and I urge you to try and search for help in your environment : life does not have to be this bad, and it can get better.

voisin 6y ago

This is the most absurdly ludicrous thing I have ever read, and I am not exaggerating for effect. I honestly cannot tell if this is a bad joke or sarcasm, because I can hardly imagine a human being who could believe such nonsense. If you experience any of this nonsense first hand it is because you believe it to be true and have created a self fulfilling prophecy. You need to change your perspective. Go see a therapist and work out your issues. I suggest reading some Gabor Mate and work on resolving unresolved childhood trauma (the only thing I imagine to be strong enough to create such self-limiting beliefs - assuming of course your post is not just a failed attempt as sarcasm).

sonofhans 6y ago

You sound really upset. I don’t blame you. I started going bald in my 20s. It was heartbreaking to cut off my long hair. I truly loved it and felt strongly that it was part of my identity. The alternative, I thought, was ridiculous — a bald man with a pony tail. Now I’m nearly 50, and if I could grow my hair back, I wouldn’t. I’ve been shaving with a trimmer once a week for 15 years now, and I adore it. It’s quick and easy. My hair is predictable and zero-maintenance. I think I still look pretty cool. Professionally I’ve never felt the lack. When I leave one company I quickly have offers piling up for new gigs. I have a family now, but (back when it was ok to be out in public) women still hit on me. Consider that no matter what your qualities, some people and contexts will ostracize you for them. You must instead find places and people that are acceptable to you, and accepting of you. There’s no magic here, just work and perseverance. There are plenty of worse situations: being Black is still no picnic in the US, and plenty of other places. Being a woman is still very challenging in many places. Being poor (like, too poor to own a computer) is still the worst. If you’ll forgive me for being blunt: if going bald is really the worst thing that’s happened to you, consider yourself to be very, very fortunate. There’s no reason to be suicidal about it. Find a therapist. Only you can improve your life, hair or no hair.

mpfundstein 6y ago

you sir, should get checked out. thoroughly