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> I had a girl cancel a date when she learned I was balding (she explicitly told a friend this) so there’s a reason men feel bad about it. Dodged a bullet ther

> I had a girl cancel a date when she learned I was balding (she explicitly told a friend this) so there’s a reason men feel bad about it. Dodged a bullet there!

snshn 6y ago
Well done, 47.
fossuser 6y ago
Sure, in that specific case I’d agree it’s a flag. But there’s a general truth to sexual attractiveness in there, and it’s better to accept the reality as it is and adapt. Sometimes it's better to just learn the dance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX40mBb8bkU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX40mBb8bkU Remember what the dormouse said: Shave your head (or something like that)
- ben509 6y ago
  Yup. There are no bad reasons to not pursue a relationship, because anything that avoids heartache and misery is implicitly a good reason.
- voisin 6y ago
  > there’s a general truth to sexual attractiveness in there Even a cursory consideration of the numerous bald celebrities should be sufficient to disabuse yourself of this notion. There is no general truth to sexual attractiveness as related to hair, or height, or skin colour, or weight, or…
  - fossuser 6y ago
    This is bad reasoning. The existence of balding celebrities does not mean that balding has no affect on sexual attractiveness. A lot of celebrities are famous for reasons other than attractiveness. Balding and bald are also different (which was part of my point). > "There is no general truth to sexual attractiveness as related to hair, or height, or skin colour, or weight, or…" This is just straight false. There are always varied preferences and outliers, but there are general trends too. You ignore them at your own peril.
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  - JabavuAdams 6y ago
    Gee, I wonder whether there's anything about celebrities that might make them more generally attractive than average balding dudes?
- kareemm 6y ago
  The general point is that confidence is more attractive than baldness or any of 100 other kinds of uncontrollable issues that impact physical appearance. When you become comfortable and confident with who you are and recognize what you can't change, you attract the same.
  - fossuser 6y ago
    I agree that confidence is important. The other stuff does matter too though. It’s better to recognize that rather than pretend it’s all confidence. The girl that canceled the date didn’t do so because I wasn’t confident, she did so because she saw a picture of me with thinning hair on FB. Another canceled when she found out I was 3 months younger than her. People are picky. Thankfully I've since met someone really great and I'm now engaged/out of the game. I'm glad.

> I had a girl cancel a date when she learned I was balding (she explicitly told a friend this) so there’s a reason men feel bad about it. Dodged a bullet there!

snshn 6y ago

Well done, 47.

fossuser 6y ago

Sure, in that specific case I’d agree it’s a flag. But there’s a general truth to sexual attractiveness in there, and it’s better to accept the reality as it is and adapt. Sometimes it's better to just learn the dance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX40mBb8bkU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX40mBb8bkU Remember what the dormouse said: Shave your head (or something like that)

ben509 6y ago
Yup. There are no bad reasons to not pursue a relationship, because anything that avoids heartache and misery is implicitly a good reason.
voisin 6y ago
> there’s a general truth to sexual attractiveness in there Even a cursory consideration of the numerous bald celebrities should be sufficient to disabuse yourself of this notion. There is no general truth to sexual attractiveness as related to hair, or height, or skin colour, or weight, or…
- fossuser 6y ago
  This is bad reasoning. The existence of balding celebrities does not mean that balding has no affect on sexual attractiveness. A lot of celebrities are famous for reasons other than attractiveness. Balding and bald are also different (which was part of my point). > "There is no general truth to sexual attractiveness as related to hair, or height, or skin colour, or weight, or…" This is just straight false. There are always varied preferences and outliers, but there are general trends too. You ignore them at your own peril.
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- JabavuAdams 6y ago
  Gee, I wonder whether there's anything about celebrities that might make them more generally attractive than average balding dudes?
kareemm 6y ago
The general point is that confidence is more attractive than baldness or any of 100 other kinds of uncontrollable issues that impact physical appearance. When you become comfortable and confident with who you are and recognize what you can't change, you attract the same.
- fossuser 6y ago
  I agree that confidence is important. The other stuff does matter too though. It’s better to recognize that rather than pretend it’s all confidence. The girl that canceled the date didn’t do so because I wasn’t confident, she did so because she saw a picture of me with thinning hair on FB. Another canceled when she found out I was 3 months younger than her. People are picky. Thankfully I've since met someone really great and I'm now engaged/out of the game. I'm glad.