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I have stopped explaining people how my neighbor's friends honking when coming in and leaving drives me up the wall. There's the sound and then there's the rage

I have stopped explaining people how my neighbor's friends honking when coming in and leaving drives me up the wall. There's the sound and then there's the rage from "that was fucking useless to do, you just spent 15 minutes saying goodbye on the doorstep, it 11PM, please be quiet" but I am the grumpy one. So I say nothing anymore. Fun thing is, when I am in the city, I like opening the windows in summer and car noises don't bother me much because it's normal and part of the scenery. But then I am perfectly capable of putting on my pajamas past 10PM, climb down the stairs from the flat to the street, knock on the car's window and ask the driver to turn off the engine because the low humming noise I hear in my bed is driving me insane. It's when the sound is useless and could be easily prevented that I get crazy. Misophonia very much also.

dazc 6y ago
Maybe it's the lack of consideration that annoys you more than the noise itself?
- johnchristopher 6y ago
  Definitely, should have written it down in my comment rather than describing my experience. This is a huge aspect of what grinds my gears. But there's also some speech patterns that get on my nerves in public transport and it's not really (at least most of the time) a lack of consideration from the people though (but it happens way less often).
  - chrbr 6y ago
    Yeah, that's the part that gets me too - the lack of consideration. I live near a hospital and have zero problem with the near-constant sirens, but people gunning their loud engines at stoplights will cause me to rage.
- remir 6y ago
  Not the parent, but that's the main reason for me. I can tolerate loud noises like thunder, road work, renovation in the building (at reasonable hours, of course) without much of an issue. However, stuff like - Modified motorcycle that makes an insane amount of noise for no intelligent reasons - People playing bassy music that resonate across the walls of the entire building (low frequencies) - Constant pop music everywhere you go Are seriously getting on my nerves.
sep_field 6y ago
unfortunately in the US you can't go knock on the car's window because you are likely to be shot since there is no gun control.
- buzzerbetrayed 6y ago
  > likely I do not think that word means what you think it means. Please stop trolling HN. Your comments are filled with baseless claims such as this.
  - sep_field 6y ago
    your comment reads as <blanket denial> <personal attack>. Can you make a more constructive statement?
    - buzzerbetrayed 6y ago
      Honestly I feel like my comment was pretty clear. 1. You are not "likely" to be shot, as that implies it is the probable thing to happen. This is clearly false. Go knock on 100 car windows and you most likely won't get shot once, let along 50 times. 2. You are trolling HN. You're intentionally making outlandish political claims that have no basis in reality (such as the one above), in order to "stir the pot". edit: If anyone needs any more proof, just read their comment history. Earlier today they brought up how the "forced sterilization of conservatives" would solve some problem or another. Comment seems to be gone now. But their comment history is full of other obvious troll comments.
      - sep_field 6y ago
        I have a neighbor that has deliberately made their car exhaust very loud, and they frequently just go and sit in their car idling for long periods of time, upwards of an hour. A couple of weeks ago they were out there at 2 in the morning for over an hour, making it impossible to sleep. The sound is so loud it vibrates my floor. I have been very tempted to go ask them to please be respectful, but because of the gun situation here, I truly am personally terrified of being shot if I do so. This is not trolling and is not outlandish, it is my honest, actual assessment based on a current situation I'm enduring. You are being dismissive saying my comments are obviously trolling and not allowing for me to just have wildly different viewpoints compared to your own.

dazc 6y ago

Maybe it's the lack of consideration that annoys you more than the noise itself?

johnchristopher 6y ago
Definitely, should have written it down in my comment rather than describing my experience. This is a huge aspect of what grinds my gears. But there's also some speech patterns that get on my nerves in public transport and it's not really (at least most of the time) a lack of consideration from the people though (but it happens way less often).
- chrbr 6y ago
  Yeah, that's the part that gets me too - the lack of consideration. I live near a hospital and have zero problem with the near-constant sirens, but people gunning their loud engines at stoplights will cause me to rage.
remir 6y ago
Not the parent, but that's the main reason for me. I can tolerate loud noises like thunder, road work, renovation in the building (at reasonable hours, of course) without much of an issue. However, stuff like - Modified motorcycle that makes an insane amount of noise for no intelligent reasons - People playing bassy music that resonate across the walls of the entire building (low frequencies) - Constant pop music everywhere you go Are seriously getting on my nerves.

sep_field 6y ago

unfortunately in the US you can't go knock on the car's window because you are likely to be shot since there is no gun control.

buzzerbetrayed 6y ago
> likely I do not think that word means what you think it means. Please stop trolling HN. Your comments are filled with baseless claims such as this.
- sep_field 6y ago
  your comment reads as <blanket denial> <personal attack>. Can you make a more constructive statement?
  - buzzerbetrayed 6y ago
    Honestly I feel like my comment was pretty clear. 1. You are not "likely" to be shot, as that implies it is the probable thing to happen. This is clearly false. Go knock on 100 car windows and you most likely won't get shot once, let along 50 times. 2. You are trolling HN. You're intentionally making outlandish political claims that have no basis in reality (such as the one above), in order to "stir the pot". edit: If anyone needs any more proof, just read their comment history. Earlier today they brought up how the "forced sterilization of conservatives" would solve some problem or another. Comment seems to be gone now. But their comment history is full of other obvious troll comments.
    - sep_field 6y ago
      I have a neighbor that has deliberately made their car exhaust very loud, and they frequently just go and sit in their car idling for long periods of time, upwards of an hour. A couple of weeks ago they were out there at 2 in the morning for over an hour, making it impossible to sleep. The sound is so loud it vibrates my floor. I have been very tempted to go ask them to please be respectful, but because of the gun situation here, I truly am personally terrified of being shot if I do so. This is not trolling and is not outlandish, it is my honest, actual assessment based on a current situation I'm enduring. You are being dismissive saying my comments are obviously trolling and not allowing for me to just have wildly different viewpoints compared to your own.