Other people have talked about skin in the game or whether you’re ignoring valid criticism. I think the thing that’s been bothering me recently is the asymmetry

Other people have talked about skin in the game or whether you’re ignoring valid criticism. I think the thing that’s been bothering me recently is the asymmetry of some ‘commenters’. My job is hard, we’re under water in terms of critical things to do vs people who can do them. Which is a point at which someone who has no expertise coming in and going “oh well what about this” becomes toxic. It is incredibly frustrating to have to explain to a dilletante the 20 different things going into a decision and eventually bring them to the same conclusion you already made because it’s actually your job. That’s not every situation - some times people really do have experience and know better or have tips or suggestions. The likelihood is though- if it’s my job, I’ve probably spent more time thinking about it than the person just coming in.