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Your point eludes the fact we're all caught in this system, not just teenagers. Parents have few choices, they have certain budget for a house and that dictates

Your point eludes the fact we're all caught in this system, not just teenagers. Parents have few choices, they have certain budget for a house and that dictates which district they're in. Meanwhile, they're struggling and working hard and education is a pivotal means of upward mobility, so they feel it's extremely important to their child's future. US Teachers are grossly underpaid and have to deal with tremendous amounts of training already...and stress. Consider in many of our schools, you have one teacher to 20 or 25 students, many of whom have undiagnosed learning disabilities, developmental problems, social issues, familial problems, hunger, mental health issues...teachers are already working insanely hard for low pay. I worked exclusively in struggling schools and I had kids with cousins shot dead, kids who literally jumped onto the table and screamed how myself and other teachers were racists, it's insane what teachers have to handle. So no, We can't lay everything at the feet of current parents and teachers, there's a lot of policy, politics, and history in the educational field that no current teacher or parent had anything to do with. They're struggling and vying for success just as they see the children suffering.

DoreenMichele 6y ago
So no, We can't lay everything at the feet of current parents and teachers I'm a parent. I'm a parent who was sexually abused as a child and succeeded in not passing on my awful baggage about sex to my children. I took the position "The buck stops here" and was unwilling to accept excuses. I was fortunate to be a military wife and it allowed me to be a homemaker. I ultimately homeschooled my sons for a lot of years. My first blog was a parenting and homeschooling blog. I've had a few of them and none have really gelled. I would love to be part of the solution here for the wider world, not just for my kids. I don't know how to make that happen while getting no real engagement. Adults are absolutely the people who must be held responsible. Making excuses for why current adults can't do better by the children in their charge is part of the problem. I'm fine with saying "The US has amazingly shitty policies generally and needs to be more family friendly." I get that. But someone, somewhere has to take responsibility. And that someone needs to be a current adult, not a legal minor. From what I gather, anti-bullying programs tend to try to intercede with the kids in a way that fundamentally doesn't work. They don't have the legal rights or agency to stand up for themselves. Adults are the ones who have that. Adults are our only hope here.

DoreenMichele 6y ago

So no, We can't lay everything at the feet of current parents and teachers I'm a parent. I'm a parent who was sexually abused as a child and succeeded in not passing on my awful baggage about sex to my children. I took the position "The buck stops here" and was unwilling to accept excuses. I was fortunate to be a military wife and it allowed me to be a homemaker. I ultimately homeschooled my sons for a lot of years. My first blog was a parenting and homeschooling blog. I've had a few of them and none have really gelled. I would love to be part of the solution here for the wider world, not just for my kids. I don't know how to make that happen while getting no real engagement. Adults are absolutely the people who must be held responsible. Making excuses for why current adults can't do better by the children in their charge is part of the problem. I'm fine with saying "The US has amazingly shitty policies generally and needs to be more family friendly." I get that. But someone, somewhere has to take responsibility. And that someone needs to be a current adult, not a legal minor. From what I gather, anti-bullying programs tend to try to intercede with the kids in a way that fundamentally doesn't work. They don't have the legal rights or agency to stand up for themselves. Adults are the ones who have that. Adults are our only hope here.