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One thing that works in my experience is to find common ground first, meaning find things that both agree on and then take it from there. It sometimes create a
by baxtr 6y ago
One thing that works in my experience is to find common ground first, meaning find things that both agree on and then take it from there. It sometimes create a joint problem solving mode.
- rapnie 6y agoYes. I see that very often with tech-minded people when they take the kind of pointed logical reasoning that works best when discussing a technical solution in an issue tracker, to other media. With responses that start like "I strongly disagree..", bringing the other immediately in a position of defense.
- bitshiftfaced 6y agoYes definitely. I try to find some more generalized, non-controversial statement that we both agree on. It's easier from that point to figure out what exactly we disagree on and why. It also serves as a litmus test. If the other person isn't even willing to take an agreeable tone to something that's not controversial, then I know I'd be spending my time more wisely by doing something else.