They put the onus on you to figure it out, and that's fine. I don't think it refutes what I said, which is that it is a failure to demonstrate what they are loo

They put the onus on you to figure it out, and that's fine. I don't think it refutes what I said, which is that it is a failure to demonstrate what they are looking for. If they don't have the time or inclination to deal with people who don't "get it", that's up to them. They probably miss out on some opportunities because of it, but maybe avail themselves of others, or sidestep some distractions.