It is still used as both a slur and a legitimate term. But even if #1 is false it's not up to neuro-typicals to decide if that word is 'fair game.' It is up to

It is still used as both a slur and a legitimate term. But even if #1 is false it's not up to neuro-typicals to decide if that word is 'fair game.' It is up to that community. And if they do reclaim the term like BIPOC we still have to understand and listen and not inject ourselves. Just like BIPOC use racist pejoratives - for many complex cultural reasons - it is not up to me/us a white guy to dictate or judge.