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Let me give you one other potential where you not speaking up is a mistake. Your boss knows you are a high performer and you are taking care of bugs and keepin
by davismwfl 6y ago
Let me give you one other potential where you not speaking up is a mistake.
Your boss knows you are a high performer and you are taking care of bugs and keeping it off his radar so s/he doesn't have to stress about it so he leaves you alone out of respect. He trusts you and knows you are capable and you don't need your hand held, hence your high ratings prior. He may not realize how much time has really passed because things you take up are just done and there isn't a concern and he's focused on other team members who are struggling or need more day to day help. It is possible you are reading into the situation what you fear rather then reality.
I'd suggest you call or send a quick email to your boss that isn't passive aggressive etc. But also do so to protect yourself so it is a fine line. I'd say something like, "Hey Boss, I've solved the last few defects x, y, and z and realized that we hadn't connected recently and wanted to take 5 minutes and just make sure I am doing the priorities you feel are most important." This way if he is building a case against you he'll have to respond in a way you know otherwise his case would become weaker. The fact you let it go on for months is already a weakness, but not beyond fixing. If you ignore, you will leave either by their action or your own and you'll be bitter which can poison your new job search, so do your part and then at least you feel good even if you leave as you'll know you did everything you could.
- misnome 6y agoI have recently been in, what I think is this situation. I didn’t speak to my boss from April ‘20 through to last month. From my POV he trusted me to work with other teams and choose my own priorities - he’s in quite a unique place in our organisation where he’s pretty high up but has his own “branch” where he hires people directly. However, there are definitely people who he does ignore because it’s easier not to have to deal with them or their problems (and can’t remove for other reasons), but from the outside there is little to differentiate the situations. However, although the freedom was nice, it didn’t really do anything to focus my career, challenge me to improve, or advance in the organisation politically - so I switched over to working directly for one of the teams I had mostly been working for anyway, and a boss I already have a good working relationship with. If you don’t have the working relationship with your boss that you feel you need, and don’t see them having that relationship with others - then maybe you need to consider a change. Hopefully it’s not so completely hopeless that you can’t tactfully discuss it with them, at least.
- ktrulr 6y agoThanks misnome. I can relate to it
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- ktrulr 6y agoThanks a lot davismwfl. I appreciate. Will do that
- k4ch0w 6y agoI agree with Davis. You spend more time managing low performers and put trust in your high ones. I'd just ping them on Slack or ask for a quick call. It's weird you, if someone is doing really well we talk about things other than work and work for about 5 minutes. Remember too, people are going through covid and it's a stressful time for everyone including your boss.
- HellDunkel 6y agoThis might be a great advice for corporate players but is kind of ignoring the fact that (as a high performer or just decent person) you deserve some respect. From my experience „speaking up“ does not help in those situations. Better (also) start looking for a new position now. A plan B will get you in a much better position.
- jf22 6y agoA lot of developers skip right over the phase where they respectfully seek clarity about a difficult situation right into "speaking up" and lambasting their manager for perceived slights. Those are the situations where "speaking up" does not help. Trying to have an honest and earnest conversation should always be the first step.
- ktrulr 6y agoThanks for the input
- HellDunkel 6y agoYes. I would like to add that even in professional environments you should have some level of trust in your gut feelings. It is great to reflect and be critical of one self, to try and see thigs from different perspective. Maybe ask a friend at work first.
- ktrulr 6y agoThanks for the input