I would really caution against thinking this way. Parent discusses changing contexts which is exactly right. Things said in polite society 30 years ago are no

I would really caution against thinking this way. Parent discusses changing contexts which is exactly right. Things said in polite society 30 years ago are no longer acceptable, there is no reason to think that what we say today in polite society will be acceptable in 30 years time. The thing is even though everyone will have skeletons in their closet that doesn't act as some sort of defense, it will only take the right kind of persistence by someone strongly motivated to blow up your life, it doesn't matter that much that they have skeletons. It also seems to be very asymmetric, in that the ones most likely to attack are the ones with the least history. It's an asymmetric tool younger folks can use against older folks, and that asymmetry will always exist.