Why isn't there an email provider that allows you to 1) whitelist the content and 2) manually register the to and from addresses and 3) specify how many emails

Why isn't there an email provider that allows you to 1) whitelist the content and 2) manually register the to and from addresses and 3) specify how many emails you estimate you will be sending? At first glance, #1 seems tricky. But, I could see this as an opportunity to bring my users back to the site by providing very specific content teasers. #2 feels possible in certain circumstances. If you can register the addresses when the user registers, you could avoid problems like changing addresses. #3 seems like it would be problematic for the email provider who probably doesn't want to build a feature that reduces the ability to bill you. But I would pay for it. If you had all this, couldn't this prevent the problems described here and incentivize the spammers to find a different, easier target?