I second this, you can blame society or figure out why you keep picking bad partners. Here’s a hint - there are warning signs that a partner is not going to be

I second this, you can blame society or figure out why you keep picking bad partners. Here’s a hint - there are warning signs that a partner is not going to be good relationship material. One may not be a deal-breaker but there’s a stacking effect. Some of these warning signs: child of abusive parents; child of alcoholic parents; mental disease struggles; alcoholism; drug dependency; anger issues; constantly yelling; habit of lying (whether in telling casual stories about themselves or making statements to others); alternate value system; bad financial management skills; severe identity questions. There are enough fish in the sea that you do not need to take these characteristics into a marriage. Find someone that shares your values, your vision of the future and ideally has a similar background to your own - unless you’re the one with the warning signs and are trying to “marry up”. I don’t mean to diminish the importance of love, attraction, and personality compatibility, but for marriage it’s all that and a bag of chips. Can you beat the odds? Sure. The point is the aforementioned attributes will make your life much, much harder than it already will be.