> Once you're in that mode, where you don't have it together to work it out and grow together, sure divorce is happier than eternal rancor and abuse, but it's s

> Once you're in that mode, where you don't have it together to work it out and grow together, sure divorce is happier than eternal rancor and abuse, but it's super-down the line. This might be a bit of a trope, but it is at this exact moment that some couples have kids (like my parents did). Having not been born yet, that was not very down the line from my point of view at all.