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> If a guy here is being "friendly," you can pretty much bet dollars to donuts that he is really wanting to know if I will sleep with him Except the joke wasn'

> If a guy here is being "friendly," you can pretty much bet dollars to donuts that he is really wanting to know if I will sleep with him Except the joke wasn't a reply to you, but someone else, so you can be assured they were not hitting on you on that one. Also, you don't even know 'irrational' and 'ineedasername' genders and sexual preferences, so you cant say 'he' was trying to hit on 'her'.

DoreenMichele 6y ago
Yeah, wow, I said absolutely none of that. What I said was I fail to correctly interpret friendly banter that occurs between other people here because it isn't something I first-hand experience. Being ugly to me and people downvoting me and all this crap for stating that doesn't change it. It's just more evidence that people are all too often not friendly to me as an individual, so I stand by all of my above observations. 1. People here are not actually friendly to me. They are sometimes faux friendly while treating me like nothing but a piece of ass, which I deem to be predatory behavior, the opposite of friendly. 2. That fact makes it hard for me to correctly interpret friendly banter between other people when it does occur. 3. I continue to wonder if posting here is a giant waste of my time given the amount of ridiculous crap I get for no real reason other than posting as openly female.
- FalconSensei 6y ago
  I misunderstood that you were were talking about interactions here. You could probably tell that based on my response. I'm not 'being ugly to you' - and I know you might not be referring specifically to me. But misunderstandings like this happens, and it's nothing personal and you also shouldn't stress that much over. Seeing how (to me) you overreacted to both my and ' zadokshi' comment with a long reply about your stress and how much you suffer from these interactions, I guess I would suggest you either stop posting here - at least for a while - to relax, or create a username that doesn't indicate your gender or real identity in any way. In a side note, if I was on this level of stress and disappointment (sorry, english as second language and the best word here escaped my mind) in other people and and interaction with them, I would try to see someone to talk too. Edit: BTW, you literally said 'if a guy here is being friendly...'
  - DoreenMichele 6y ago
    Edit: BTW, you literally said 'if a guy here is being friendly...' Yes, I did and the very next set of words is the following qualifier: you can pretty much bet dollars to donuts It's not some kind of "all men" statement, but that's likely how a lot of people are interpreting it. It's a "I have to invest so much ridiculous energy in trying to not accidentally signal that I'm here hoping some random internet stranger will pick me up that it makes it hard as all hell to try to behave normally and talk normally and interpret things normally." Anyway, I said I was leaving. This is my last clarification. All other "Wow, I can't believe people are so wildly misinterpreting my words" reactions will be kept to myself. Have a nice Saturday. (Or whatever day of the week it is where you live.)
    - FalconSensei 6y ago
      Canada. Thank you, and have a great weekend!
- ajsnigrutin 6y ago
  You said something people disagree with (and mostly being guys here) that proves the point. Then you accuse friendly people of not being friendly and treating you like apiece of ass, admit you cannot recognize friendly banter, and accuse people of sexism. If someone here is unfriendly to others, it's you.

DoreenMichele 6y ago

Yeah, wow, I said absolutely none of that. What I said was I fail to correctly interpret friendly banter that occurs between other people here because it isn't something I first-hand experience. Being ugly to me and people downvoting me and all this crap for stating that doesn't change it. It's just more evidence that people are all too often not friendly to me as an individual, so I stand by all of my above observations. 1. People here are not actually friendly to me. They are sometimes faux friendly while treating me like nothing but a piece of ass, which I deem to be predatory behavior, the opposite of friendly. 2. That fact makes it hard for me to correctly interpret friendly banter between other people when it does occur. 3. I continue to wonder if posting here is a giant waste of my time given the amount of ridiculous crap I get for no real reason other than posting as openly female.

FalconSensei 6y ago
I misunderstood that you were were talking about interactions here. You could probably tell that based on my response. I'm not 'being ugly to you' - and I know you might not be referring specifically to me. But misunderstandings like this happens, and it's nothing personal and you also shouldn't stress that much over. Seeing how (to me) you overreacted to both my and ' zadokshi' comment with a long reply about your stress and how much you suffer from these interactions, I guess I would suggest you either stop posting here - at least for a while - to relax, or create a username that doesn't indicate your gender or real identity in any way. In a side note, if I was on this level of stress and disappointment (sorry, english as second language and the best word here escaped my mind) in other people and and interaction with them, I would try to see someone to talk too. Edit: BTW, you literally said 'if a guy here is being friendly...'
- DoreenMichele 6y ago
  Edit: BTW, you literally said 'if a guy here is being friendly...' Yes, I did and the very next set of words is the following qualifier: you can pretty much bet dollars to donuts It's not some kind of "all men" statement, but that's likely how a lot of people are interpreting it. It's a "I have to invest so much ridiculous energy in trying to not accidentally signal that I'm here hoping some random internet stranger will pick me up that it makes it hard as all hell to try to behave normally and talk normally and interpret things normally." Anyway, I said I was leaving. This is my last clarification. All other "Wow, I can't believe people are so wildly misinterpreting my words" reactions will be kept to myself. Have a nice Saturday. (Or whatever day of the week it is where you live.)
  - FalconSensei 6y ago
    Canada. Thank you, and have a great weekend!
ajsnigrutin 6y ago
You said something people disagree with (and mostly being guys here) that proves the point. Then you accuse friendly people of not being friendly and treating you like apiece of ass, admit you cannot recognize friendly banter, and accuse people of sexism. If someone here is unfriendly to others, it's you.