I think this is fair. More broadly I'd add that we've become quick to accuse the speaker of bad intent and too rarely consider if the listener could have been m

I think this is fair. More broadly I'd add that we've become quick to accuse the speaker of bad intent and too rarely consider if the listener could have been more charitable. And god help you if there's someone in the room intent of hearing you uncharitably, regardless of the feelings of the person you're actually addressing. The most uncharitable interpretation will usually prevail.