I must have missed the statement in parentheses the first time I read it (I honestly don't remember it being there before, apologies), so I retract the part on

I must have missed the statement in parentheses the first time I read it (I honestly don't remember it being there before, apologies), so I retract the part on what GP said about "should". However, I maintain that the comment doesn't say anything about whether women shouldn't do the things the other person said; there's no implication one way or the other in the original comment and most people do both. On the matter of kids and "high quality", I made no comment on that earlier, and I make no comment now.