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Here's an article arguing your transactional view of marriage is wrong that that you shouldn't apply economic models to marriage. Quote "You are not in a trans

Here's an article arguing your transactional view of marriage is wrong that that you shouldn't apply economic models to marriage. Quote "You are not in a transaction with your spouse; you're in a relationship." I don't expect it to change your view, but here it is for what it's worth: https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/03/spouses-probably-shouldnt-try-to-split-household-tasks-exactly-evenly/274133/ https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/03/spouses-pr...

vmception 6y ago
I agree with everything in that article which is about not obsessing over dividing tasks equally. It isn't about the shitty contract itself. You extrapolated it to be about something the article is not by seeing "marriage + transaction" as the similarity. Divorce is a probability in a marriage, this article isn't about that. Whether divorce is a 50% probability or a 10% probability (which it is miraculously now close to, for the new class of wealthy spouses marrying economic equals for the first time in history), these are still non-negligible odds. These are horrible odds of adversity in any other kind of agreement that “coincidentally but ah I want to ignore it” have explosive financial consequences.
- anotherman554 6y ago
  The article is specifically about chores but in general discusses how you shouldn't apply economic models to relationships, you are correct I extrapolated it. I'm not so interested in your complaints about divorce (though I don't think you have a good understanding of laws surrounding prenups and how they function in the American legal system and you should learn more ) but I mainly responded because I felt your attempt to apply the economic model of "utility" to a human relationship was a pretty bad idea.
  - vmception 6y ago
    Prenup doesn't affect alimony which is just as peculiar. I can see how in a vacuum here that one would see my thoughts as bad, but they are reactions to other ideas which seem to have more consensus that are based on valuing specifically women’s unpaid labor in the home. There is a finite value to how much that contributed to an aspirational and successful man (or more generally spouse / breadwinner’s) success regarding earnings. Courts should have the marriage contract based on that maxim, as it is not linearly, and rely on couples to do separate business arrangements if they are so inclined to be business partners. Some couples do this and pride themselves in this. Lets decouple it from the marriage contract.
    - anotherman554 6y ago
      You are obviously very intelligent, but assigning value to the partner's contribution to a relationship, and seeing it in an economic lens, may be intelligent but is not necessarily wise.
      - vmception 6y ago
        lets make it (O)logn and move on. something in between Monaco's and linear

vmception 6y ago

I agree with everything in that article which is about not obsessing over dividing tasks equally. It isn't about the shitty contract itself. You extrapolated it to be about something the article is not by seeing "marriage + transaction" as the similarity. Divorce is a probability in a marriage, this article isn't about that. Whether divorce is a 50% probability or a 10% probability (which it is miraculously now close to, for the new class of wealthy spouses marrying economic equals for the first time in history), these are still non-negligible odds. These are horrible odds of adversity in any other kind of agreement that “coincidentally but ah I want to ignore it” have explosive financial consequences.

anotherman554 6y ago
The article is specifically about chores but in general discusses how you shouldn't apply economic models to relationships, you are correct I extrapolated it. I'm not so interested in your complaints about divorce (though I don't think you have a good understanding of laws surrounding prenups and how they function in the American legal system and you should learn more ) but I mainly responded because I felt your attempt to apply the economic model of "utility" to a human relationship was a pretty bad idea.
- vmception 6y ago
  Prenup doesn't affect alimony which is just as peculiar. I can see how in a vacuum here that one would see my thoughts as bad, but they are reactions to other ideas which seem to have more consensus that are based on valuing specifically women’s unpaid labor in the home. There is a finite value to how much that contributed to an aspirational and successful man (or more generally spouse / breadwinner’s) success regarding earnings. Courts should have the marriage contract based on that maxim, as it is not linearly, and rely on couples to do separate business arrangements if they are so inclined to be business partners. Some couples do this and pride themselves in this. Lets decouple it from the marriage contract.
  - anotherman554 6y ago
    You are obviously very intelligent, but assigning value to the partner's contribution to a relationship, and seeing it in an economic lens, may be intelligent but is not necessarily wise.
    - vmception 6y ago
      lets make it (O)logn and move on. something in between Monaco's and linear