ADHD is tough to understand and appreciate for those who don't have it for this exact reason. Everyone experiences all most of the ADHD (except the interal chat

ADHD is tough to understand and appreciate for those who don't have it for this exact reason. Everyone experiences all most of the ADHD (except the interal chatter arising from your Default Mode Network / Task Positive Network anti-correlation being broken), so they often dismiss it or say "but everyone has a little ADHD" or "everyone feels that way". The difference is in frequency, severity and duration. In my case I've spent north of 1000 nights in the past 5 years doing the dishes at either 1am, 2am or 3am because I cannot stop doing what I want to do and direct my attention towards the dishes until it's the absolute last possible minute of the day. Often then it's just so painful to me to do it. It nearly caused my marriage to break down because I would leave them undone. No matter what I try I can't get myself to do them straight after dinner. Night after night I would wonder to myself "I wish I knew what this was called". I didn't seriously think there was something wrong with me, I just couldn't understand why I couldn't , despite my best efforts, get myself to behave in a different way. And that's just one facet of my life and how it affects me. There's more and they just pile up. When you add it all up together and you consider pound for pound how I'm doing you start to appreciate the frequency, severity and duration that can be considered pathological. It presents pretty differently across people, but by and large a diagnosis is a huge penny dropping revelation.