There’s also the issue of internal versus external. I’ve always been off the mindset that you never have to apologize for your feelings, but you should comport

There’s also the issue of internal versus external. I’ve always been off the mindset that you never have to apologize for your feelings, but you should comport yourself so that you never have to apologize for your actions toward yourself or others. Feelings are tricky to control even after you’ve noticed them, and maybe even after you’ve evaluated them. Therefore spending energy on them is not always judicious. However, every action is a choice, and letting your feelings drive you to doing something regrettable is, well, regrettable.