I know nothing about you in particular, but your post in whole suggests that you weren't raised by drug addicts and foster parents. My bigger point though, is

I know nothing about you in particular, but your post in whole suggests that you weren't raised by drug addicts and foster parents. My bigger point though, is to be very careful of people who say "I grew up in BFE, Kentucky" and then clarify that to say "really, on a farm, BFE was just the nearest town." Because the whole context changes when you find out they grew up on a Kentucky racehorse breeding farm. In healthcare and the military, you find out that this whole thing about "moving" implies realizing that's an option. You're off in the toolshed telling your friends how other people would be better off shoveling snow with a sand shovel instead of a snow shovel. Meanwhile, our ancestors drawing animals in caves shepherded those genes to us through countless winters without ever knowing about the entire class called shovels. Never mind that shovels aren't very good for a lot hunting problems, berry-gathering problems, etc. I understand that moving is legitimate way to recast your social network, but it's a long way from optimal for a lot of people.