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Children really do thrive on boundaries, and sometimes the only way to establish those is with force (take their hand and make them clean it up) or other punish
by dundercoder 6y ago
Children really do thrive on boundaries, and sometimes the only way to establish those is with force (take their hand and make them clean it up) or other punishments.
- loriverkutya 6y agoAnd then your child is not going to do something only because if not, punishment come. And they will still do it, if they can get away with it. Punishment never work on the long run.
- junippor 6y ago> And then your child is not going to do something only because if not, punishment come. And they will still do it, if they can get away with it. Punishment never work on the long run. Punishment definitely works in the long run. That's what society is based on.
- phnofive 6y agoThat’s really where punishment (fear) falls down. In the short term, consequences may be or seem inevitable; in the long term, the mischievous or criminal or anxious will model behavior to avoid consequences. Punishment should come after reinforcement - but with equal consistency.
- frankbreetz 6y agoIf you punish your child for dumping milk on a stranger and then laughing, I think the behavior will stick for the long term.
- recursivedoubts 6y ago"We might fancy some children playing on the flat grassy top of some tall island in the sea. So long as there was a wall round the cliff’s edge they could fling themselves into every frantic game and make the place the noisiest of nurseries. But the walls were broken down, leaving the naked peril of the precipice. They did not fall over; but when their friends returned to them they were all huddled in terror in the centre of the island; and their song had ceased." -- G.K. Chesterton
- m463 6y agoNever underestimate the force of a raised eyebrow.