> also have several family members that I can only get in contact with through Facebook. This is a key failure imho. You find a long lost cousin, classmate, fr

> also have several family members that I can only get in contact with through Facebook. This is a key failure imho. You find a long lost cousin, classmate, friend. First thing I would do is say "hey, what's your number" or "let's jump on a skype call" (come on, almost everyone has skype). Basically establish an 'independent' communication channel.