so you didn't like a particular implementation of activitypub designed for a specific ux not aligned with you, and some people you didn't like tried to argue wi

so you didn't like a particular implementation of activitypub designed for a specific ux not aligned with you, and some people you didn't like tried to argue with you on the internet. these are problems you will have in any social media. open source and federation give you the chance to find or design an implementation you do like. people are much harder but at least you're not beholden to dictated rules from a large american corporation, and you aren't waiting on some unknown entity to moderate. issues you raise with privacy are generally understood. public things are of course public. but there is also a lot of fediverse happening in places you can't see, and users in that space can satisfy themselves knowing those conversations aren't likely to live forever. publishing and consuming rss is a good conclusion since you're oriented to longform content and less casual discussion.