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The stereotype is you live in the suburbs and know all your neighbors. Maybe even have block parties 2 or 3 times a year. Where as the stereotype for cities is

The stereotype is you live in the suburbs and know all your neighbors. Maybe even have block parties 2 or 3 times a year. Where as the stereotype for cities is you live in an apartment building closer to way more people than in the suburbs but know none of them. No idea how much it holds but it fits my experience.

emj 6y ago
My experience is that neither of those two "groups" have parties with their neighbours. I think it might be too hard to generalize about things, the most sociable place I've lived in was Sopocachi in La Paz a high density walkable area, but I've never experienced anything like that anywhere else so it might be an outlier.
LeanderK 6y ago
I live in a smaller german city and I know my neighbours. Before I lived more suburban (though 10 minutes with the train into the city) and I knew none because most were old I was a student sharing a home with other students. Some complained about us being loud after 10pm. The stereotype is meant as something positive, but I associate something negative with it. I grew up suburban and I just can't imagine ever moving back. It's so boring, dull and while there's more proximity, you are so bound to you environment. If you don't fit in the you have a problem. I didn't fit in later in school, I didn't get bullied or anything, but I just lacked people with the same interest. I found them in the city in the 10th grade, so I started to commute by train into the city every wednesday after school and on the weekends. They were weird, looked weird and interested in music, art and protecting the environment. I regularly feel asleep saturday night on the central station because I missed my train and had to wait hours. I understand the positive association but the only thing I associate with it is being locked in in an environment you have no control over because it is not by choice but by geographic proximity. I don't want parties with people on my block, I want parties with my friends. Preferably every weekend until the sun starts to rise again and I am exhausted but happy. Writing this was very interesting for me, I never really tried to reflect why I so strongly despise the idea of moving again into something suburban.

emj 6y ago

My experience is that neither of those two "groups" have parties with their neighbours. I think it might be too hard to generalize about things, the most sociable place I've lived in was Sopocachi in La Paz a high density walkable area, but I've never experienced anything like that anywhere else so it might be an outlier.

LeanderK 6y ago

I live in a smaller german city and I know my neighbours. Before I lived more suburban (though 10 minutes with the train into the city) and I knew none because most were old I was a student sharing a home with other students. Some complained about us being loud after 10pm. The stereotype is meant as something positive, but I associate something negative with it. I grew up suburban and I just can't imagine ever moving back. It's so boring, dull and while there's more proximity, you are so bound to you environment. If you don't fit in the you have a problem. I didn't fit in later in school, I didn't get bullied or anything, but I just lacked people with the same interest. I found them in the city in the 10th grade, so I started to commute by train into the city every wednesday after school and on the weekends. They were weird, looked weird and interested in music, art and protecting the environment. I regularly feel asleep saturday night on the central station because I missed my train and had to wait hours. I understand the positive association but the only thing I associate with it is being locked in in an environment you have no control over because it is not by choice but by geographic proximity. I don't want parties with people on my block, I want parties with my friends. Preferably every weekend until the sun starts to rise again and I am exhausted but happy. Writing this was very interesting for me, I never really tried to reflect why I so strongly despise the idea of moving again into something suburban.