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Well, pick a big city? While it will definitely happen, it's unhealthy to befriend only coworkers. Learn how to make friends outside of your office life. That w

Well, pick a big city? While it will definitely happen, it's unhealthy to befriend only coworkers. Learn how to make friends outside of your office life. That way your employer can't use your social life against you leaving. Trust me, after the pandemic, when the daily grind kicks in and your office life and daily commute drains every ounce of energy, you'll be happy to WFH.

DC1350 6y ago
> Well, pick a big city? I know. I guess it’s just choice paralysis.
- fermentation 6y ago
  Making friends in a new city is really hard even without covid. Anecdotally I found meetup helped me out a lot. After a few weeks of awkward gatherings I finally found people I clicked pretty well with. Forcing yourself to go is hard though.
  - thekyle 6y ago
    What types of meetups did you find worked best?
    - fartcannon 6y ago
      Play a sport. Preferably something coed. Nothing hyper competitive. You'll make friends AND stay in shape.
tachyonbeam 6y ago
Most people working in tech earn a good enough living to be able to afford an apartment not far from work. You don't have to have a long daily commute. There are multiple cities in North America and Europe that are not insanely expensive, and it can be realistic to live somewhere a 10-to-20-minute walk or bike ride from work. You have a choice, you don't have to choose the suburban lifestyle.
dbish 6y ago
It's ok to make friends at the office. I have a lot of great friends from my last company and from my current one and I did pick a city. I've gone to their weddings, traveled together, and have developed friendships that have lasted for almost 10 years so far for some of them. You tend to have a lot in common with other tech folks and you don't have to deal with the anti-tech discussions as much that seems to happen so much nowadays.

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Well, pick a big city? While it will definitely happen, it's unhealthy to befriend only coworkers. Learn how to make friends outside of your office life. That w

by fartcannon 6y ago

DC1350 6y ago
> Well, pick a big city? I know. I guess it’s just choice paralysis.
- fermentation 6y ago
  Making friends in a new city is really hard even without covid. Anecdotally I found meetup helped me out a lot. After a few weeks of awkward gatherings I finally found people I clicked pretty well with. Forcing yourself to go is hard though.
  - thekyle 6y ago
    What types of meetups did you find worked best?
    - fartcannon 6y ago
      Play a sport. Preferably something coed. Nothing hyper competitive. You'll make friends AND stay in shape.
tachyonbeam 6y ago
Most people working in tech earn a good enough living to be able to afford an apartment not far from work. You don't have to have a long daily commute. There are multiple cities in North America and Europe that are not insanely expensive, and it can be realistic to live somewhere a 10-to-20-minute walk or bike ride from work. You have a choice, you don't have to choose the suburban lifestyle.
dbish 6y ago
It's ok to make friends at the office. I have a lot of great friends from my last company and from my current one and I did pick a city. I've gone to their weddings, traveled together, and have developed friendships that have lasted for almost 10 years so far for some of them. You tend to have a lot in common with other tech folks and you don't have to deal with the anti-tech discussions as much that seems to happen so much nowadays.