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The only solution I think is to not engage. Focus on long-lived relationships with people who actually have gotten/will get to know you. Save your complex and n
by brundolf 6y ago
The only solution I think is to not engage. Focus on long-lived relationships with people who actually have gotten/will get to know you. Save your complex and nuanced thoughts and feelings for those people; random strangers will always see you through a cartoonized lens. When you do have micro-interactions with strangers - which, never forget, includes all public social media posts whether you want it to or not - keep things inoffensive. If someone else inflames the situation, quietly and diplomatically withdraw from it.
Beyond just being a strategy for individuals, doing this contributes in a tiny way to lowering the temperature of the whole room.
- georgyo 6y agoThe article addresses with a chain of events of small concessions that eventually lead to so much splash damage that the public mind is swayed against you. The conclusion is that people must always fight to defend against splash damage because as left unchecked it is a "super weapon." I think this is a pretty interesting viewpoint.
- GurnBlandston 6y agoThis has been my strategy for a long time, and it works. The hard part is the bar for opening up is impossibly high. There's also the chicken/egg problem: someone can't get to know you without you opening up, and you can't open up until someone gets to know you. I feel like this is a big factor in increasing loneliness among adults.