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>The way I see it, if you refuse to be seen in a virtual meeting, you should _also_ refuse to be seen in person as well Unfortunately, I don't have a golden go

>The way I see it, if you refuse to be seen in a virtual meeting, you should _also_ refuse to be seen in person as well Unfortunately, I don't have a golden goose. Virtual meetings, by virtue of being new, gave me an opportunity to push back onto the need of seeing one another. Not being in the office would be met with manager talks. >also, it's pretty rude to refuse to let yourself be seen. Are we really doing this? There are so many things that are rude. Not everything has to be met with a resounding "yes" because on a whim, people decide to mimic the work floor to the T without thinking further. I enjoy my visual privacy. To me, it is even more rude to force someone out of their visual privacy for a prolonged time multiple times a day, let alone having to stare at one's own face because the app refuses to build in a way to remove your own video feed without closing it entirely.

Sunspark 6y ago
I responded to Stretchcat with extra detail because I am that guy with a hearing accessibility challenge. In response to what you said, I will add that I live by myself. If I can't see a coworker such as yourself over video, when am I going to get to see anyone? The only in-person interaction I have had since March outside of a neighbor on the sidewalk/going to the grocery store and seeing the cashier/going to the doctor, has been only my mother and only 3 times. This is pretty isolating! You are helping me out by feeling a little bit more connected to people if I can have a video chat with you. I'm very used to isolation, but I can also tell it isn't ideal for my mental health and 2020 hasn't been excellent. Make an exception for me please.
- clairity 6y ago
  yes, accessibility is a legitimate reason to prefer video calls. but the way you worded your original comment, it implied blanket rudeness for not prefering video all the time for everyone. it would indeed be rude to cut you or anyone else out of a conversation due to accessibility concerns in the absence of alternatives like computer-generated captions (as mentioned in your other comment).

Sunspark 6y ago

I responded to Stretchcat with extra detail because I am that guy with a hearing accessibility challenge. In response to what you said, I will add that I live by myself. If I can't see a coworker such as yourself over video, when am I going to get to see anyone? The only in-person interaction I have had since March outside of a neighbor on the sidewalk/going to the grocery store and seeing the cashier/going to the doctor, has been only my mother and only 3 times. This is pretty isolating! You are helping me out by feeling a little bit more connected to people if I can have a video chat with you. I'm very used to isolation, but I can also tell it isn't ideal for my mental health and 2020 hasn't been excellent. Make an exception for me please.

clairity 6y ago
yes, accessibility is a legitimate reason to prefer video calls. but the way you worded your original comment, it implied blanket rudeness for not prefering video all the time for everyone. it would indeed be rude to cut you or anyone else out of a conversation due to accessibility concerns in the absence of alternatives like computer-generated captions (as mentioned in your other comment).