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It is ok to say things that are only 95% true. It is ok to point out the 5%.

by jpitz 6y ago

AbrahamParangi 6y ago
Yes.
- bergstromm466 6y ago
  Not sure if you misread it but your “yes” sounds like maybe you read this as a question: “Is it...”, and not the “It is...” that OP wrote. I want to reiterate that for people with few spoons [1], they don’t need to get permission to be allowed to only do what works for them, or to feel shame for not being able to do what can seem easier for others: i.e. ‘powering through’. I’ve seen this ugly thing where people make all sorts of assumptions about me, and perhaps unconsciously, yet verbally, speak out their train of thought, which means they often say something that ‘excuses me’ for not ‘powering through’, or that after reminding them of my background, that they now understand why I do not force myself to ‘power through’. It feels shit and it sucks because it’s a constant reminder of the ruthless productivity that is expected in many areas in modern life. A conversation like this can also slowly lure me back into taking on way too much, way too fast, and not properly looking after myself or others. Not all disabilities are visible. [1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory
  - jhardy54 6y ago
    Yes.
giantDinosaur 6y ago
Just as often pointing out the 5% is then used as an excuse to not do something, even when the advice does apply. The number of times I've brought up how much a healthy lifestyle matters to have it dismissed because someone they knew/heard of died at 30 from cancer despite being vegetarian and exercising all the time is rather high.
- kaitai 6y ago
  Hey, this ties in with the Weak Man Superweapon thread! https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25876554 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25876554
- stkdump 6y ago
  These are probably people that don't want to live a healthy lifestyle and no amount of pointing at the negatives will change that. Their point isn't "healthy lifestyle doesn't help" but rather "some people beat themself up and make themself miserable with this health stuff and then don't even reap the benefits of that".

It is ok to say things that are only 95% true. It is ok to point out the 5%.

by jpitz 6y ago

It is ok to say things that are only 95% true. It is ok to point out the 5%.

AbrahamParangi 6y ago

Yes.

bergstromm466 6y ago
Not sure if you misread it but your “yes” sounds like maybe you read this as a question: “Is it...”, and not the “It is...” that OP wrote. I want to reiterate that for people with few spoons [1], they don’t need to get permission to be allowed to only do what works for them, or to feel shame for not being able to do what can seem easier for others: i.e. ‘powering through’. I’ve seen this ugly thing where people make all sorts of assumptions about me, and perhaps unconsciously, yet verbally, speak out their train of thought, which means they often say something that ‘excuses me’ for not ‘powering through’, or that after reminding them of my background, that they now understand why I do not force myself to ‘power through’. It feels shit and it sucks because it’s a constant reminder of the ruthless productivity that is expected in many areas in modern life. A conversation like this can also slowly lure me back into taking on way too much, way too fast, and not properly looking after myself or others. Not all disabilities are visible. [1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory
- jhardy54 6y ago
  Yes.

giantDinosaur 6y ago

Just as often pointing out the 5% is then used as an excuse to not do something, even when the advice does apply. The number of times I've brought up how much a healthy lifestyle matters to have it dismissed because someone they knew/heard of died at 30 from cancer despite being vegetarian and exercising all the time is rather high.

kaitai 6y ago
Hey, this ties in with the Weak Man Superweapon thread! https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25876554 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25876554
stkdump 6y ago
These are probably people that don't want to live a healthy lifestyle and no amount of pointing at the negatives will change that. Their point isn't "healthy lifestyle doesn't help" but rather "some people beat themself up and make themself miserable with this health stuff and then don't even reap the benefits of that".